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Learn to Prioritize Better
Put Off Procrastinating Tip #1 - Get Yourself To Start
Procrastination is frustrating.
It stands between you and your goals like a brick wall. You need to climb over it, but there are no immediate rewards on the other side, just more work. To make things even worse, the more you worry about it, the less energy you have left for climbing. You know you need to get to the other side, but your brain is telling you that it might be too difficult, and you don’t even try.
Don’t worry, a lot of people feel the same way. Today I will share one simple, but very effective tip on dealing with procrastination.
Here’s the challenge:
Get yourself to start! Identify one task that you’ve been putting off, and work on it for 15 minutes. Do it right now if you can. Otherwise, schedule a 15 minute block in your calendar. If after 15 minutes, you feel like you want to continue working, great! If not, take a moment to realize that you resisted the temptation to procrastinate and that you’ve gotten closer to your goal, so celebrate!
Here’s the reason why this simple technique works: When we procrastinate, we tend to exaggerate the pain we’ll endure while doing the activity, and understate the pain of not doing the activity. 15 minutes seems easy enough to do (which translates to less pain), and it makes you feel good about making progress on your goal (and you experience more pleasure).
So take action right now, and share in the comments what it is that you are trying to do. Let’s support each other and beat procrastination once and for all.
Reflective learning is the type of learning that’s based on experimentation, rather than looking for answers somewhere else, like in a book or on a website. Reflective learning might not be the most efficient way of obtaining information, but the constant application of knowledge and experimentation, while paying close attention to the connection between our actions and results leads to a deep understanding of the subject. That’s why it’s called reflective - it requires reflection on our experiences and results.
In this article, I will explain Kolb’s model of reflective learning. This model consists of 4 stages:
- Concrete experience
- Reflective observation
- Abstract conceptualization
- Active experimentation
By reflecting on our experiences, we can discover why and how things happened. In order to prepare ourselves to deal with similar situations in the future, we conceptualize. We try to make sense of the consequences, positive or negative, and link them to our actions. This allows us to come up with abstract conclusions and general rules which we can then apply to our current situation. We become ready to take action again, this time according to our new beliefs and expectations, and this produces new results. We then compare these results with our expectations and use this information to deepen our understanding.
You don’t need to be perfect to start. But you need to start to be perfect. So start today and have fun learning!
What are some ways to stop caring about other peoples’ success?
The only person who you should be competing against is yourself.
Realize that you have full control over your actions, thoughts, beliefs, values and emotions. Other people’s successes could be interpreted as a good thing; for example, you can be happy for someone finally achieving their dream, or contributing to something valuable.
But you can also use it to get depressed and tell yourself that you are a failure, and that you are worthless.
We don’t experience reality. We experience interpretations of reality. There are multiple filters that distort limited quantities of information that we perceive and then try to make sense of.
Your ego is trying to protect you by shutting down the voice that’s telling you how much you are actually worth. The lizard brain is afraid, and it’s going to make sure you’re ready to deal with the danger.
But there is no lion chasing you.
This is when your conscious mind comes into play. Emotional pathways are quick, but not very reliable. After this you need to consciously decide whether the danger is real.
In this case the danger is not immediate. So you’re left with the feeling of being inadequate.
But you have a choice. You can use that feeling as a warning sign and use it as a motivator to push yourself in the right direction, until you feel more confident.
In addition, you can use the other people’s successes to your advantage. Try to figure out what factors contributed to their success, and start modeling them. This will save you some time on trial and error.
My Definition of Work - Life Balance
Work - life balance is, in fact, the ability to manage our time, effort and attention in a way that allows us to meet our needs the best way possible. Our work satisfies our needs, including financial security, significance and contribution, and the “life” aspect satisfies our needs for love, fun and personal growth, among others.
To “have work - life balance” then, means that one has designed life (as a whole, not in contrast to work) in such a way, that all the needs can be met to a desired, or at least satisfactory degree. An individual can be successful in one area (financial, for instance) but not others, which indicates lack of balance and is caused by neglecting the unmet needs in favor of the primary need that gets most of the time and attention.
Suboptimal Organizational Culture
There are always other things to address. There is always something else to do, or some other place to be at.
Being driven by urgency, you will always be busy, but the output will not be optimal. It’s not about being busy and feeling productive, but about being smart and doing things that are optimal for the growth of the organization you’re part of. The important things.
The low urgency tasks never get done. Being aware of importance, and not just urgency will put things back into perspective.
But how important is organizational culture?
It’s hard to measure the effects of a good culture on a company’s profits. But you can measure the negative effects of turnover. And that does not even include disengagement, the lack of care and motivation, and lack of trust between people.
Once the importance of the organizational culture is realized, the next obstacle to overcome is the fact that there is no easy fix. There are no exact steps that you can follow and process that you can enforce and make everything work.
This is not a to-do list. This is a leadership test. It is hard, but avoiding it is irrational. The worst thing that can happen is that nothing will change. The best thing that can happen is that you will have a workplace where people will feel respected, valued, trusted and engaged. It doesn’t take statistics or accounting reports to figure out which one is going to be more effective.
You Don’t Have To See the Whole Staircase, Just Take the First Step
Most people find it hard to accept that they won’t see the whole staircase upfront. Having a plan is always better than not having it, but you can’t predict the future.
The overrated fear of uncertainty combined with underestimated capabilities prevents people from taking action. It’s important to recognize that not taking any action is also a decision, one that can prevent you from getting results which would ultimately put you in a better position, and instead actually increase the uncertainty you were trying to avoid in the first place.